Consideration
I caught up with my future brother-in-law last weekend. Had a big drink with him like we always seem to do even though it’s not that often. Usually we end up talking all kinds of random on these nights, and this time was no different.
He brought up this blog, and how he wants to blog with me but didn’t know what subject would be suitable. Immediately I knew that it had to be something about consideration. You see, we are two very different people in a lot of ways, but deep down we are both willing to listen to each other and consider what the other one is saying.
You know how some people just seem to disregard what you say immediately? If you’ve read the articles on this page you’d be well aware that I’m open to a lot of different theories and facts. Finding someone that you can discuss this with is hard at times.
Every time I bring up the idea of house prices crashing in Australia to my father, he pulls the “it’s different here” line. He’s old school, and doesn’t have the mental ability to consider the fact that a lot of people could get screwed over by this bubble. Same deal with talking to my fiancee’s mum about weddings. I’m not saying “I’m right and you’re wrong”, I’m saying that “my view is this”, and yet I’m still told that I’m wrong. How can an opinion be wrong? Nice people, but very close minded, and I have trouble talking about my true thoughts with these people nowadays.
After our drunken talk last weekend though, I realised that consideration is very important in a good relationship. It’s hard to speak your true feelings to someone who will just shut you down every time. Good communication means that while you may not agree with someone’s opinion, you will try and see it their way. The more you are willing to consider a person’s view or opinions, the more you will find out about them.