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I write a lot on here about money and the economic situation of the world, and I’m usually pretty negative about things. Talking to those in my office, where pretty much everyone is under the age of 30, most others have the same attitude. That said, it’s only the opinion of the older generations that we are so negative. I’ll explain…

It’s well known that most Gen Y’s aren’t very loyal in a workplace sense. They are happy to jump ship after a short period of time just for some extra money here or there. Apparently the way we were brought up, we have a short attention span or something. I’m not sure, someone was telling me about it once but I wasn’t really listening… haha!

Does this extend further than just employment though? Local car manufacturer Holden is in a heap of financial trouble at the moment – being down the food chain from General Motors isn’t the best place to be in an economic crisis. Talking to the Baby Boomers, they think it would be a great loss to this country to lose Holden, but talking to the Generation Y’s paints a completely different picture. The general consensus is that Holden have been producing poorly built, inefficient and overpriced cars for too long now. Technology has moved in leaps and bounds for European and Japanese cars, but in Australia we are essentially using the same outdated technology as the yanks. It’s nobody’s fault that Holden is going under but their own, and good riddance.

In this specific example I see a crash and “the world coming down” as a massive positive. The US and Australia manufacturers will be brought to their knees and forced to produce more efficient cars and work with a business model that actually makes money rather than lose it. Lots of other people just see the doom and gloom and not the positives from it. These are usually the older generations.

Now does that make us positive or negative? Loyal or disloyal? Short term I can acknowledge that peoples lives will be “ruined”, but once again I see a positive in that. Without making too much of a generalisation about Holden employees, the meaning in their life is in their car, their TV and their Jim Beam. Now while I like cars, watch too much TV and enjoy the drink, I’d be stoked to live in a world where all three didn’t exist. Others would be literally lost, but before long find some real meaning in their life, and enjoy it for real rather than all the superficial crap that we live for nowadays.

While bankruptcy and losing your car and what not is a big negative in the short term, it offers such a huge positive in the long term.

All of this doom and gloom has enormous positives out of the other side, yet the Baby Boomers struggle to see this. Why so?

My father for one would be sad to see the Aussie icon that is Holden lost to the Global Financial Crisis, but I’m happy for it to sink. House prices crashing, banks falling, economies crumbling, exchange rates not so good. Baby boomers would faint if this stuff wasn’t sugar coated when it all happens. However what is bad for some is great for others, you just need to be able to open your mind and explore the situation, rather than just look at it with your blinkers on. Gen Y’s are able to see the positives in this situation much more easily than the Baby Boomers.

Gen Y’s are loyal, Baby Boomers just can’t see that in order for their country to become strong again they need to cut off the dead wood first.

So I was just on a car forum that I regularly talk on to kill my days at work. People were talking about “cheating” in a relationship and what they consider to be ok and not ok. I told a comical story from a few years back where I ended up in a less than ideal situation with a girl from a party that I was at. I didn’t do anything that I considered as “wrong”, although probably pushing the boundaries a bit, and my girlfriend didn’t see it as an issue either. The point that I was trying to make, was that everyone has differing opinions, and what works for some won’t work for all.

I think the biggest mistake that some people make is pretending to be someone who they aren’t, just to make a relationship work. If you are your true self 100% of the time, there’s nothing to lose. Your partner knows what you are like, who you really are, and what to expect. This in my opinion is how quality relationships are formed.

Anyway, I copped a barrage of abuse. Closed minded sheep that are set in their ways. The comical thing was that the majority of them posting abuse at me had never had a decent long term relationship. By the sounds of it, most don’t communicate when in a relationship and try to conform to the rules that society set for their relationship, only to end up failing each time they try.

The point that I then brought up was whether or not they would dump someone for cheating, or try and work things out. Literally all except one of them said they’d dump the other person.

Now I hate talking about this crap, but it is interesting. I think it’s a perfect example of people getting hung up on small things in their life, rather than just living it an experiencing it for the journey. I’m not suggesting that people let their partner walk all over them, but I just believe that people are too quick to break things off nowadays. Fact of the matter is, life won’t always go your way.

I was talking to my fiancee the other day, relaxing down by the river on a Sunday afternoon. After talking about her niece and nephew, she said “imagine if we couldn’t have kids”. In the past I’d have thought that she would be devastated, but after asking her what she would do she just said “that’s life, you’ve gotta move on”. For sure, I’d be disappointed for a bit too, but it’s not as though my life would be over. I think some people place too much emphasis on too few things. To me, life is a journey. Ups and downs, good times and bad, but ultimately every time there is a good or bad occurrence, it just opens a new door.

I get annoyed or unhappy from time to time like everyone does, but I really think you can make a conscious decision to “look on the bright side of life”.

When we talked about the possibility of not having children, I realised that although at first we’d be disappointed, it would mean a life of togetherness. Most parents I speak to say that the time before they had kids was the best time in their relationship. I could handle living my whole life like that!

Being a kid, life is just fun. You roll with the punches and keep on going. You don’t hesitate, because nothing can stop you. If you fail, you just get up and try again. As we get older, we lose this carelessness. We get hung up on the small things and let life beat us down and stop us from living the life that we really want.

If you take a step back and think about life, it’s amazing. Embrace it for what it is and enjoy as much of it as you can. It’s the best journey you’ll ever experience.